Cultivating Patience

Patience is a highly sought after quality. Let's start out by taking a look at the two sides of it.

When you are patient you feel at ease which makes for physical and mental comfort. Impatience on the other hand, triggers irritation and makes you feel uneasy.

By cultivating patience we stop resisting and start to flow with life.


Here are a few everyday situations where patience come in handy:

- Imagine you are with a friend who has a lot of things to tell you. She talks and talks for a long while. For some of us, listening like that can be a real test. It's only natural to get impatient and think, "Is she ever going to stop talking about herself?"

- Another example would be waiting for a train. Waiting naturally makes for impatience, like tapping with the feet and looking at the time every 5 minutes. All you want is to get moving...

- How about being half way through a project. May it be organizing the garden at your new home or a big contract at work. It can be really frustrating to be in the middle of something, how does it affect you?

We have so much to gain by cultivating patience. You will be able to feel at ease even when things aren't going your way, not to mention how much people around you would benefit from it. Take a moment to think about it.

With patience we stop complaining and start to flow with life.


It takes time to change habits, so don't expect results overnight. Having said that, it's as possible to change as it's exciting.

The keys to patience are awareness and acceptance. If you are unaware of the arising of impatience, you won't be able to stop it. That makes awareness the key to change.

There are several ways to bring awareness into your life. The most direct is to repeatedly remind yourself to pay attention to what you are doing. Think to yourself, "Awareness" or "Attention."

Another approach is putting up colorful notes round the house. Perhaps on the bathroom mirror and the fridge. You can do the same thing at work as long as it's done in moderation.

Meditation is probably the most effective way to build awareness. Guided meditation is both fun and easy to learn, no previous experience needed. Download these free meditations where I guide you to a state of vibrant stillness. With practice, your concentration and awareness will grow stronger.


Once you become aware of the arising of impatience, it's a matter of accepting the situation as it is. The sooner you become aware of the impatience, the easier it is to accept the situation.

In the beginning awareness isn't that strong and you may become aware of the impatience quite late, but with practice you will be able to catch it before it's rooted itself.

By accepting the situation as it is, you stop resisting it and start to flow with life. If the train is an hour delayed, what good is it to resist anyway?

Accept every moment as it is and you will be happy.

Best of luck!

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